I read the following contemplation last night, and it spoke to me:
“Toward the goal of freedom, yogis have recognized two basic human strategies: The most well-known and commonly practiced strategy presumes that you’re not where you’re supposed to be and that there’s something to achieve in the future. So after lifetimes of hard work and much struggle, you may finally achieve it.
The second strategy involves the recognition that there’s nowhere to go and nothing to get. Everything is perfect exactly the way it is. You’re exactly where you’re supposed to be. If you wholeheartedly accept that possibility, a big relax can happen. And from this relaxation, an openness and receptivity to what is appears. From this openness, with no effort, you find yourself in the place you thought you had to work so hard to get to. Freedom: It was here all the time.
Many people choose the hard-work-and-struggle strategy. And if you’re one of them, all I can say is, good luck.”
~ from “Happy Yoga” by Steve Ross
Lately, I’ve been confined by the first strategy mentioned above. The hard-work-and-struggle. I’ve been stressed and unhappy and very rarely able to truly relax. I never feel as if I am good enough. I want to do more, have more, and be more.
What a sad way to live.
While I advocate the importance of dreaming dreams and following those dreams, I’d like to remind myself and my friends that we must not get too caught up in our dreams for the future. Otherwise we risk sacrificing our happiness in the present moment.
The best dream is the one that embodies my life today. Once upon a time, I dreamt of a loving relationship and children and now, this is what I have. Why do I focus on the dreams I have yet to achieve? It would be better if I could simply file away those dreams for the future and let them come true on their own. It’s happened before. Like when I fell in love with my husband. I wasn’t searching, I just stumbled upon him.
In letting go, we let things happen.
From now on, I choose the second strategy. I choose to recognize that I am exactly where I am supposed to be.
A devoted mother and stepmother.
An adoring wife.
A struggling entrepreneur.
An aspiring writer.
A loving friend, daughter, and sister.
A healthy woman striving to raise a healthy family.
Exactly who I am supposed to be right now. At this age. On this day. At this moment in time.
Can you relate to one or both of these strategies toward freedom? Do you accept that you are where you are supposed to be right now?