He who keeps the Tao does not want to be full.
But precisely because he is never full,
he can remain like a hidden sprout
and does not rush to early ripening.
~ the last paragraph of the 15th verse of the Tao Te Ching
This morning I read the 15th verse of the Tao and the accompanying chapter, Living an Unhurried Life, in Dr. Wayne Dyer’s “Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life.”
Usually, I will read a verse and it’s accompanying chapter once, roughly 4-5 pages, contemplate for a few moments and then move on. When I have time. (Clearly, this does not happen daily since I’ve been reading the book for a few weeks and I’m only in the 15th verse.) If I have time to read three chapters one day, then I will, because I know I may not find the time to pick up the book at all the next day.
This verse and Dr. Dyer’s accompanying interpretation on Living an Unhurried Life has made me realize two things:
First of all, I should only be reading one verse and chapter per day. If I have more time, I should read the same one again. And again, if I can. I need to do this so that these Taoist concepts can really implant themselves into my brain. Otherwise, I might forget. This stuff is too good, too wise, too helpful to forget. That which I am reading perhaps too hurriedly is that which is telling me to slow down. Finally, I get the message.
Secondly. I am stressed out the majority of the time because I never feel like I am getting enough done and this is not the way I should be living. Yes, I already know this. I’ve known this for months and I’ve been working on getting over this stress for months. It seems to be a side effect of motherhood. I want to repeatedly knock on my head to remind myself, “um, hello! You are madly in love with a baby who is attached to you 24/7, a 4 year old who lives with you half the week (and is here every day this particular week), and a husband, all of whom you take care of because you want to! Not to mention a fledgling tea business, a writing career, and a blog all inspiring you and keeping you impassioned. Then there’s the friends and family whom you adore and with whom you can’t ever spend enough time. There’s also the exercise keeping you sane and the time spent cooking good meals keeping you healthy. OF COURSE THERE IS TOO MUCH TO DO.”
I love all of these things. I love everything about my life. What is there to stress about? So what if the writing career and Herbal Philosophy are moving along slowly and I only post to my blog sporadically. At least words are being typed and tea is being sold. Meanwhile, my first priority is being a mom. Comforting as sharp baby teeth (and trust me, they are sharp) are poking through sore gums. Waiting to catch the falls as chubby little legs are learning to walk. Everything is always changing and there’s so little time to soak it all in.
I vow to not only accept where I am right now, but to love and cherish where I am. Which is here. Chipping away at the old block. Still making progress, little by little. Still growing, still loving, still laughing. Unhurried.
Do you feel impatient with life sometimes? Do you feel like you’re always rushing? Are you okay with these feelings or would you prefer to live an unhurried life?
If you live an unhurried life already, what’s your secret?