the divine purpose of every moment

This is the 300th post at lucille in the sky. Congratulations to me!

The day was a rainy one, as they usually are. We were huddled in C’s cozy apartment, which was so warm it was like an invisible bonfire burned in the middle of the living room. C didn’t have to pay to heat her apartment, the cost was included in the rent.

E was telling us about her evil step-mother who used to buy stale, tasteless cereal for her step-children and colorful, kid-approved cereal for her own daughter. She turned E’s childhood into one of darkness. We listened, wide-eyed, sad for our beautiful friend and for all children who are’t cherished the way they should be.

Fast forward several years and C and I are both step-mothers. We are mothers and step-mothers, and we struggle. I’d venture to say all women in these roles do, at least in the beginning. We strive to be better, to love better. And what did God whisper in our ear back when we were innocent, before we became wives and mothers?

God told us to be careful. God showed us how this role of step-mother can make a woman become an ugly version of herself. God planted this seed when our futures were untold, when we never could have imagined the corners we’d turn or the love we’d find or the children we’d have.

And this memory of teary eyes in the toasty apartment helps me see how everything is connected. How lessons arrive to teach us exactly what we need, even years before we need it. If we listen, if we pay close attention to every moment as it unfolds, the universe will guide us to light.


  1. this is wonderful!
    i am not a stepmother any longer, but i was for a time and it was one of the hardest things i was ever up against and that scares me int he fact that my two older girls have a step mom now and i pray everyday she is a better version than i was.


    1. I know for a fact that the warmer YOU feel towards their stepmother, the warmer THEY will feel, and hopefully, the better stepmother she will be. Make sure your girls have *your* permission to love her and respect her. Of course this may be old news to you seeing that you probably have more experience with blended families than I do 🙂 Thanks for your comment, I like to know that I’m not alone in my challenges.


  2. Hi there – we haven;t spoken in a while but i wanted to check in to let you know i saw you at Whole Foods a few weeks ago when you were there doing samples. I wanted to stop by and say hi but you had a bunch of people at the table there.

    Wonderful post – love it!


    1. What a wonderfully small world! I was there in September and again last weekend. I’ll let you know the next time I do a tasting and I hope you’ll stop by and say hello 🙂 And try some tea of course.


  3. This was a great post! I am not technically a step mother but what i am is a mother to hurt kids who came to me later in life. Practically the same thing, honestly, and this post really hit the nail on the head.


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