These are Lessons from My Children, a new series on the blog.
Everything we experience is temporary. Feelings are fleeting and newborns learn how to sit up. Sadness ebbs and flows. Happiness is a choice, a way. Like beauty, success exists in the eye of the beholder.
Children beg us for attention and this confuses us because we think our attention is nothing too special, nothing worth working hard or crying over. We don’t always know what our children know. We tend to forget we’re all babies, innocent to the mystery of existence. I’m not sure who has more to learn from the other–children or adults?
We call children innocent because they know so little of the world we’ve spent decades seeking to understand. Including their own cuteness, their own perfection. (Does anybody?) Skyla, now 12 weeks young, bobs around in our arms, her piercing black eyes looking at everything and nothing, taking it all in, this wild world of ours.
But I’m starting to think she knows things I don’t. About God and angels and the intricacies of the human face. Things I’m too busy to notice.
Giovanna spotted a butterfly on the other side of the car window and she squealed like she’d seen a miracle.
And she did, didn’t she? The caterpillar, who went to sleep and awoke with wings, thinks so.
She dragged me into the front yard because “something happened.” Her face looked the way we think kids should look on Christmas morning. But she didn’t need a truckload of presents.
I peered between the newly opened petals and what I saw turned my skin to gooseflesh. I felt like I’d become privy to a secret, a certain intimacy with nature. In blooming, the poppy showed us what she was made of. Not just pistil and stigma, but pattern and individuality, every flower exhibiting different interpretations of the same genes.
Not unlike people. Whether you like it or not, your DNA is 99.9% the same as your neighbor, your enemy and your best friend. In that 0.01%, our opinions reside like stubborn rocks and our passions begin and bloom and wilt and die.
There is no one who experiences pleasure as you do. There was no other baby who cried just like you and there will never be another adult who can offer the world what you have.
It doesn’t matter what excites you, what makes you giddy, it only matters that you let yourself be giddy over the things that bring you happiness in the eternally fleeting moment, whether it’s a flower or an ice cream cone or an unexpected smile. Let yourself memorize faces and stare at patterns until they become something else entirely. Look up. Follow the gaze of children. Just by noticing their enthusiasm I find my heart growing and my mind wandering into uncharted territories where words flow like waterfalls and beauty appears everywhere, as prolific as flowers in the month of May.