Breaking Resolutions: How you “should” be

Americans love making resolutions. We find hope in taking responsibility for the direction of our lives. Me, too.

I like making resolutions, but I also like breaking them. I feel as if I am snubbing the underlying message that we are not good enough as we are, and so we must openly strive to be different and better–before it’s too late.

Us conscious mortals have an interesting burden: In exchange for our awareness of love and beauty, we are achingly aware of our limits. No matter how much we love life, we cannot live forever. No matter how we want something, we cannot force it. We were made in the image of God, but our only true form of control is surrender: Non-attachment.

It’s easy to become attached to resolutions, to how you “should” be. You should be happier, thinner, wealthier. You should have another kid or you should get married or you should date more or you should take a vacation or you should buy a house. You should eat less sugar. You should pray more. You should wake up earlier.

If you’re making resolutions, I hope you’re practicing non-attachment as well.

I hope you’re not obsessed with should’s.

I hope you look in the mirror and see the depth and meaning of your presence.

I hope you love your body for no the reason other than its capacity to feel.

I hope you have the direction to know what you love.

I hope you are safe enough to be vulnerable.

I hope you have the strength to surrender.

Happy New Year 🙂

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